Sexy, Single, and Stoned

Note: this is an abridged version of an article that appeared in The Art of Mary Jane, the magazine.

You’re on your own. You’re looking for love. You like to smoke pot. Maybe you just smoke it on the weekends. Maybe it’s even a “special occasion” thing, like when you go to a concert or on a hike. Maybe you wake and bake every morning, and continue to puff away throughout the day because, as the old saying goes, “it’s always 4:20 somewhere!”

Whatever your level of marijuana consumption, finding the optimal partner with whom to share you love (and your stash) can be a tricky proposition. On the one hand, busting out a joint five minutes into your first date might turn off the object of your desire, even if he or she has no real aversion to the sticky icky. On the other hand, keeping your pot smoking habits to yourself for more than a couple of dates could lead to your potential mate regarding you as untrustworthy or disingenuous. So where’s the happy medium?

First off, let’s consider where you have met this potential partner. Is he or she a friend of a friend, and is that friend a stoner? If so, you can do a little “research” with your buddy, who shouldn’t have any qualms about letting you know if your current love interest like to puff, puff, pass. If you met him or her at a party where weed was whipping around the room, odds are there isn’t going to be much judgment about your own smoking, regardless of his or her habits. If you met at church, play it careful. If you met at a Buddhist meditation sangha, you play that opportunity fast and loose.

Maybe you didn’t meet at all, at least not in person. One in five dating relationships now start online. There are a host of dating sites available to you online, though the one that might suit the pothead best is

There are plenty of pot smokers who frequent other sites, and who may well have a broader range of interests. Once you’ve found that potential mate and are determined that he or she is down to get high, there is that all important ritual: the shared smoking of the first bowl. This experience will reveal all sorts of things about your partner, based upon both smoking habits, and habits of mind while in an altered state.

Jacob Barnes

Have you met a fellow toking soulmate? Did you go online, or meet at a dispensary? We want to hear your stories.

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  1. This is an amusing, but surprisingly truthful post. It’s hard to find a significant other who has the same understanding and relationship with cannabis as you do. I think you may like my blog as well, feel free to check it out and I welcome any and all feedback!


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